Category Archives: Shopping Tips

Fashion Styling Tips No One Tells You and More

I thought it would be fun for you to not have to read or watch anything, and instead sit back and listen while you have your morning
coffee, apply makeup, or cook a meal.
I was a recent guest on a brand new podcast called Magnificent Aging podcast hosted by professional organizer Deirdre Dolan Nesline.
In this podcast you’re going to not feel so alone and learn a few tips you won’t get in a magazine or on TV.

Here are a few things you’ll learn from this interview:

  • How to figure out what’s right for your dressing style
  • The process of letting go and keeping what looks incredible on you
  • Scarlett helps people create great outfits and get rid of items that no longer work for you.
  • Her BIG secret to shopping and releasing emotion regarding what to wear as we age
  • Who are you dressing for?
  • Are color charts still relevant?
  • Trends-why be part of a pack?
  • Lots and lots of ideas including money-saving tips.
So sit back, and get ready to see your clothes in a whole new way.
I take that back…get ready to see your clothes in a bunch of whole new ways.

PS The End Your Closet Shame is over but you can still get my help to show you how to always know what to wear when you click here.

The Sleeve Length You Shouldn’t Wear


Almost all women hate showing their arms…even when
it’s 100 degrees outside.

I can relate.

But don’t rush to wear any top just because it has sleeves.

Beware the half-sleeve.

This is one sleeve style that can be quite unflattering.  For starters, it has a major FRUMP producing look.

The Sleeve Length You Shouldn't Wear

The Sleeve Length You Shouldn’t Wear


These sleeves are too long or too short, depending upon how you look at it and unless your upper arms are very wide, this sleeve length will:

  1. Make your upper arms appear bigger than they actually are.
  2. Make your chest area look larger, from side to side which is soooooo not the goal of most women.
  3. Make you look older than you are.
  4. Make you look wider than you are.
  5. Make an outfit look a bit too casual and/or messy looking.

When you know how little details make big improvements, getting dressed is so much less stressful.

My online course Dress Without Stress is available. Click here to learn more.

Subscribe to Scarlett Says – my free twice-monthly newsletter for women who want to stop stressing about dressing, and I’ll send you my free End Your Closet Shame 5 Day Video Guide.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Boots can be warm.
Boots can be cool.
Boots are comfortable.
Boots are stylish.
Boots can elevate an outfit.

But, the wrong style boot will ruin your styling efforts.


Here are some boots do’s and don’ts.

If you are less than 5’2 or have wide calves, do not wear mid-calf boots because…

When a boot hits at the widest part of your lower leg it will visually make it look wider and your legs look shorter.


I couldn’t find a photo showing how bad this can often look, as retailer’s websites won’t display wide calves with mid-calf boots, but this look is often seen with Ugg mid-calf boots.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Most women want to look leaner and taller, so mid-calf boots are not our friend.

If you have wide calves…

Use search filters when online shopping for wide calf boots and look for boots with stretch fabrics versus all leather.


If you can’t find knee-hi boots to fit your calves, then I strongly suggest trying wearing ankle boots. I live in these style booties and they tend to visually lengthen and thin out legs.

This pair by Blondo, are waterproof and very similar to a few that I own.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

If you’re petite in height and don’t have wide calves, then go for knee hi boots as another option.

Tips To Know Which Boot Style To Wear

Above all…Remember, these boots are made for walking.



My Favorite Things For You and Yours

Let’s be honest for many, like me, December is a magical, festive, and often exhausting time of year.

And you know what? I LOVE it!!

It’s the time of year I ask my Santa, of the last 30+ years, for things that might be a splurge, but are worth it and I consider well-earned treats.

And a time for me to give much-deserved gifts to those I love and care for.

So here are a few of my favorite things that I discovered and love and I hope you will as well. They’ll save you time, money, and aggravation while reducing a bit of gift shopping stress.

Most importantly, they just might make you feel as special as you truly are.

Simple Human Makeup Mirror

Simple Human Makeup Mirror available at Bed Bath & Beyond. Use your 20% off coupon to save $. I LOVE this mirror, and how I can fit it into my carry-on suitcase.

I can’t wait to get this skirt, and it has pockets! You’ll lounge  around the house and go to sleep in style. It is  great for  vacations, house guests and working from  home instead of the  oh so boring leggings.

Use code FRIENDS to get 40% off!!

P.S. The woman who cuts my hair designed these and  I can’t  wait to get my Sleep Skirt on Christmas  morning. Shhhhh.



Pop Socket – A holder for your cell phone and the car mount to hold it. Much better than your phone flying around in your car.

Green Salve

Green Salve by Motherlove. This company makes great all-natural products for new mothers and babies. I know and love this product as my daughter who works for Motherlove gifted it to me. It reduced sunburn, rashes, you name it more quickly than anything I’ve tried before.


ScarlettME! Yes, you too could have Scarlett under your tree. I work with women all over the country personally and virtually, and you or someone you love will learn how to choose the right clothes and outfits that’ll get you both looking and feeling, gorgeous, self-confident and waaay less stressed about getting dressed.

Gift Certificates are available. Please feel free to request info by sending me an email.I would love to hear from you.

Think about it, do you really want to give or receive another boring present or the amazing gift of finally knowing what clothes should be worn and bought so the closet is filled with outfits you’d love to wear? Hmmm…..

Size Shaming

No More Size Shaming!

Let’s Shout Out loud – Stop Size Shaming!!

I apologize in advance if I seem a bit angry in this video.

If you have any size shaming stories to tell, please put them in the comments below, and let’s unite to stop the madness!

Pssst…Overheard In The Dressing Room

I’ve helped many women find the perfect dress to wear to their son or daughter’s wedding, and now that our daughter recently got engaged, soon it will be time to find a dress for myself. No pressure! Ha!

Here is her engagement photo, taken after saying YES!! And we’re so happy she found a great guy and a very cute dog too.

Size Shaming

How To Make Wrinkles Less Noticeable

Yeah, you can try creams, procedures, injections to make wrinkles less noticeable…


You can use my tips in the video below to make the skin on your face look smoother, in a matter of minutes.

Pssst…Overheard In The Dressing Room

Our hands are a give-a-way to our age, so here is a tip my friend told me her fancy dermatologist gave her:

Apply sunscreen with zinc just like a hand-screen. Keep it in your car, as your hands on the steering wheel get lots of sun without you even realizing it.

Here’s the one I use.

How To Make Wrinkles Less Noticeable

No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

Be sure to read thru to get a new resource for affordable and interesting jewelry that I traveled thousands of miles to find.


No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

You know how sometimes, okay many times, you have clothes that used to fit or are a bit snug and gathering dust in your closet waiting for another chance?

I certainly know that feeling, and it really stinks that the size we wear is likely not the same as it was a few, or many, years ago.

The good news is that there are some very important one size fits all things we can wear no matter what shape or size we may be.

Even though you already know them, be sure to choose interesting and flattering versions.

  1. Earrings – see the link below for inspiration.
  2. Necklaces – ditto regarding the below link.
  3. Scarves – Nordstrom, TJMax, and Marshalls have great selections.
  4. Shoes – get a few pairs that are more stylish than basic. Comfortable no longer means ugly.
  5. Handbags – get a bag in a fun color or print & stop wearing the bag that is worn down and dare I say, boring.
  6. Eyeglasses and/or sunglasses – in colors and shapes that compliment your facial features and outfits. See the great resource for those in the New Jersey area.

I mean let’s think about the following:
Waists tend to go out and in.
Size tends to go up and down.

But….the list above will still fit you with very, very few exceptions.

Below are a few new resources I found for you to take a look at.

No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

I was seeking shelter during a typical brief rainstorm while exploring London, so I stepped inside the inviting store Oliver Bonas. They had tons of interesting jewelry that looks much more expensive than it is, and when I got home I discovered that they provide the option to buy their designs here in the U.S. via their website.

No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

Below you can see me wearing the $38 necklace I bought and immediately wore. Since I stick to certain colors, it matched all the clothes I had packed for my trip to Europe.

P.S. When I showed it to my in the garment business husband, he thought it cost more than $100! BINGO!

No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

Another great resource that one of my lovely clients introduced me to, is
Private Eyewear.  They are based in New Jersey and depending on where you live or work, will come to you and help you select frames that flatter your face shape, features, and personal style.

Glasses are on our faces, so don’t lose sight, pun intended, on how important they are to your outfits and personal style.

There is one more surprise one size fits all accessory…


Confidence looks great on all and makes anyone who wears it, feel strong, brave, and ready for new challenges. The word even comes up quite often in testimonials.

See below for confidence Exhibit A.


No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

Thank you, Scarlett, for helping me let go of the stress of dressing.  You really helped me gain control. Most of all, thank you for the CONFIDENCE that you instilled. Dressing will be much more fun!  Cindi Melkerson

Pssst…Overheard In The Dressing Room

I’m often asked: How do travel with only a carry-on. How do you do it?
Well, one of my tricks is that I take mini sizes of almost all toiletries and makeup.
One trick is that I put my foundation in a vial that was a sample from another product. It easily holds enough for a week.
But another is that I buy from vs. in the store itself because they offer great samples with online orders. These sample sizes and the mini products you get with their membership point system are fantastic.

Hair products, lipsticks, moisturizers, cleansers, etc are in tiny sizes and take up much less room than their full-size counterparts.

No Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear TheseNo Matter What Shape Or Size You Are, You Can Wear These

Bon voyage.


Are fashion Magazines Dying Out For Women Over 40?

Are fashion Magazines Dying Out For Women Over 40?


Are fashion Magazines Dying Out For Women Over 40?Are fashion Magazines Dying Out For Women Over 40?


I miss being inspired by fashion magazines, which makes me ask:  
Are fashion magazines dying out for women over 40?

I remember as a teenager, being so excited when my mother’s monthly issues of  Harpers Bazaar and Vogue arrived in the mail.

Oh, those gorgeous women, perfect makeup, hair, and clothes. Classy, stylish, and oh so inspiring.

When it was time for me to grow and dress up, I couldn’t afford those clothes, yet I was inspired to create outfits using clothes that were in my budget.

Fast forward to today and being easily inspired is not so easy, and it’s no wonder woman, especially those who follow and/or hire me, are searching for flattering and wearable fashion for women over 40.

So listen, I’m not trying to further depress you, and maybe I’m pointing out the obvious, but unless you’re totally into expensive labels and outfits that will turn heads 360 degrees, you can no longer strictly rely on fashion magazines to get your wardrobe styling creative juices flowing.

Note: Often high fashion outfits are now styled to be artistic but that does nothing for those of us who have to figure out what to wear to have dinner with friends, meet a client or give a presentation.

Are fashion Magazines Dying Out For Women Over 40?

Oh, and don’t get me started on how some store windows. The one above can make you want to run in the other direction.

All of this doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel, and keep wearing the same things or stop trying to step up your wardrobe and self-confidence. It just means you need to look elsewhere for ideas.

One suggestion is to take a look at the store and online clothing catalogs for more wearable and practical outfit ideas.

It’s always a good idea to try different labels and sizes to see how they fit your current shape and size.

Listen, the labels I wore in my 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, etc. don’t fit me as well as they used to. One of us has changed, and I think it was me. Experience has taught me that I’m not the only one.

Below are a few of my favorite catalogs for you to look at for relatable and realistic styling inspiration and real-life outfit ideas and you can buy similar looks on any budget at different stores,

Soft Surroundings 

Garnet Hill

Neiman Marcus

Pssst…Overheard In The Dressing Room

“I just don’t want to look like a school teacher”.

That’s what a new client told me during our first phone call.
That funny line told me so much about what she wanted and needed from her styling consultation with me.

How would you tell me what you needed and wanted to stop your stressing about dressing?
Let me know your answer via email.



What Is A Flip-Flop Sock?

What Is A Flip-Flop Sock?

Goodbye sandals.


October starts a sad time for me, although only until May.

This is the time I have to say goodbye to showing my toes. Not because I need a pedicure, well not yet, but because the temps dip just below 60 degrees and shudders, I wear shoes instead of sandals.

Frankly, I never handle this footwear change very well.

The good news is that it will be back in the ’70s again, and I’ll be back in sandals in no time flat. Actually, I really will be in flats so that my feet will not only be free but also comfy…

But I can promise you won’t be seeing me trying to convert flip-flops into year-long appropriate shoes with flip-flop socks.

Bet you’re asking what is a flip-flop sock?

Well, if you can’t pull yourself away from wearing flip-flops during colder days, these socks just might be what you’re looking for.

What Is A Flip-Flop Sock

Tip: These flip-flop socks are great for when you get a pedicure on cold weather days and that’s the only time I might possibly wear them.

WARNING: Wearing flip-flop type sandals too often is actually bad for your feet. Here is an article to back me up on this.

The website Scary Mommy inspired me to write this post. They come out with some funny stuff on a regular basis. Their name says it all.

Pssst…Overheard In The Dressing Room

“Thank you so much for my personal styling call. It was a blast, and I’ve told everybody I know about it!
I’ve gone what for me is completely nuts, buying many of the clothes you suggested I try. At first, I tried to find styles similar to your recommendations — I thought I could do it on my own! But I couldn’t! So I stopped wasting time and went back to the shopping links you sent me.
As you promised, this hasn’t been stressful for me for even one second. I am looking at everything and everybody with new eyes, and I do indeed hear your uplifting voice in my head.” Jane Campbell Back In Sorts Organizing Systems