Recently I was asked to be a guest on the wonderful Amy Schmid’s podcast Fearlessly Facing Fifty. She asked me to share styling tips on how to shop and dress for our ever-changing bodies and mindset.
So take a listen and please tell me which you liked the best or what tip you’d like me to give you in the near future.
Easy packing. Easy choosing what to wear.
“Yesterday and today I’m on the road meeting with clients and estate attorneys. Before packing I pulled up the photos of all the beautiful outfits you created and it made packing so easy! Everything coordinated and I felt great. Many thanks!”
PS. My next newsletter will be my annual My Favorite Things list where I share the products I love for myself and you.
When one of my clients has the joy of her son or daughter getting married, she calls me for ideas on what to wear as the mother of the Bride or Groom, and the first thing I tell them is not to wear black.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking…but Scarlett wore black.
Okay, I confess I did and that I’m somewhat ashamed, but please hear me out before you shake your finger at me or roll your eyes.
When you read to the end, you’ll find out the true reason I wore black.
I tried on at least 15 dresses in two different stores and in all sorts of colors and shapes. None fit me in a flattering way that also didn’t require weight loss or undergarments that I couldn’t get into without a team and likely some sort of pulley system.
Now when I take a client shopping, typically one of the first 3 if not the first dress is the winner for her, but that did not happen for me.
But when I put this dress on from a store called Elephants Trunk in Mt. Kisco NY, I knew I found ‘the one’ for me.
Still, I knew I wanted to make some changes so as to make the dress my own and have the look and style I wanted for myself.
The Elephants Trunk allowed me to customize the dress and along with their very talented seamstress, here is what I requested:
Bye, bye, frumpy sleeves!
I didn’t want the sleeves to be the same fabric as the main part of the dress as to me that looked frumpy.
As per my request, I wanted them to be made out of the lacey and slightly sparkly fabric.
But that wasn’t enough for me! I wanted a flowing back and the seamstress and salespeople on the floor looked at me like I was nuts!
To be honest, when I was in weeks before, the owner thought my idea was great.
Below is the back before the requested flowing fabric was added.
Below is the dress with the fabric pinned onto the back and once they saw my idea actually on, they loved my idea.
If you know me, you know I love clothes that have movement.
And here I am with my son on the day of my daughter’s wedding, and let me tell you it was a GREAT day and night.
PS. The dress did come in other colors, but because this dress was made from two different fabrics the colors did not totally match and that is
the only reason why I ended up wearing black.
Take a look at the video below with a few of my tips to help you select a dress for the
special events in your life.
Watch to get ideas onWhat To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom so you’ll be comfortable, confident and certain nothing will pop!
No way can I count how many times I’ve been asked if I know about the companies that will ship you a variety of clothes in a box for you to try on.
Yes, way I know all about them and have seen quite a few sad expressions on my first time client’s faces when I ask about some of the unworn and/or unloved pieces in her closet?
So why the long faces?
Well, often it is because she imagined that by telling the online personal stylist whatever info they requested, that she would actually be getting pieces perfect for her.
Reality check time.
These services are NOT my competition, and no I don’t want to offer the clothes in a box service. I won’t change my business model from serving to selling as I’m motivated by seeing a woman looking and feeling confident, and not by making money.
I don’t believe in telling women to wear Spanx to fit into their clothes, so why should I squeeze myself to fit into someones else’s business mold? I hate constrictions of all kinds!! If I don’t let my clients be pushed and squeezed into the wrong clothes for their shape and lives, why should I squish myself into what doesn’t fit my own business and personality?
These clothes in a box companies mission are to make money by selling you more and more, not to help you have a wardrobe that can be mixed and matched.
More stuff doesn’t mean you have more to wear.
But you probably already knew that.
You can make these online clothes in a box services work better for you, if you actually know what colors, patterns, styles, labels, and fabrics are the most flattering for you. And please request items that will give you the ability to make many more outfits vs just the one outfit they send you.
The best wardrobe is one that you can do lots of mixing and matching with, instead of clothes that don’t go with anything you already own.
It might be fun to try a service that sends you clothes in a box all wrapped up with a pretty ribbon, but based on the regrets I’ve seen on women’s faces or hanging in their closets, it doesn’t always work out and I don’t want you to think something is wrong with you or your body if the clothes don’t look that great on you.
Remember, it’s not you. They simply were the wrong clothes for you.
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Then let me show you how to let go of the clothes you’ve been holding onto for all the wrong reasons and you’ll see that breaking up won’t be so hard, or messy, to do for FREE!!!
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I was asked to share my tips and suggestion for 2nd Act TV on the topic of boosting one’s self confidence by simply changing what we wear, and now I’m sharing this short video with you.
Take a look or listen, and see which simple tip will change how you choose what to wear.
If you watched the video all the way till the end, and I sure hope you did, you heard me mention my FREE End Your Closet Shame 5 day plan that will show you how to know which clothes and accessories should stay or go.
It started on Monday and ends Friday, but you still have 2 days to join, get all 5 days of tips and join my private FaceBook group where you’ll get my advice for FREE!
I know crazy right? But I love giving wardrobe styling advice and helping women have wardrobes they get excited to wear and be seen in.
So, End Your Closet Shame Plan is for you if you’re ready to let go of the past and clean your closet out of the clothes that simply aren’t good enough for you.
I’m going to show you how to say goodbye to the clothes you shouldn’t keep and help you start a new relationship with the clothes that will treat you right.
Thank you Saturday Night Live, or for us cool kids SNL, for making a hilarious video about how some women play it safe when shopping for clothes.
I tell all who’ll listen to me, that your immediate reaction is the one that counts, and if you agree you’ll love what happens in this video within 30 seconds of trying to talk yourself into buying something.