Author Archives: Scarlett De Bease

Are You Fearlessly Facing Your Closet?

Are You Fearlessly Facing Your Closet?

Fear not…relax and listen instead.

Are You Fearlessly Facing Your Closet?

 

Are You Fearlessly Facing Your Closet?


Recently I was asked to be a guest on the wonderful Amy Schmid’s podcast Fearlessly Facing Fifty. She asked me to share styling tips on how to shop and dress for our ever-changing bodies and mindset.


Are You Fearlessly Facing Your Closet?

 

So take a listen and please tell me which you liked the best or what tip you’d like me to give you in the near future.


Easy packing. Easy choosing what to wear.
Are You Fearlessly Facing Your Closet?

“Yesterday and today I’m on the road meeting with clients and estate attorneys. Before packing I pulled up the photos of all the beautiful outfits you created and it made packing so easy!  Everything coordinated and I felt great.  Many thanks!”



PS. My next newsletter will be my annual My Favorite Things list where I share the products I love for myself and you.

 

 

What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom

What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom

When one of my clients has the joy of her son or daughter getting married, she calls me for ideas on what to wear as the mother of the Bride or Groom, and the first thing I tell them is not to wear black.

Ok, I know what you’re thinking…but Scarlett wore black.

Okay, I confess I did and that I’m somewhat ashamed, but please hear me out before you shake your finger at me or roll your eyes.

When you read to the end, you’ll find out the true reason I wore black.

I tried on at least 15 dresses in two different stores and in all sorts of colors and shapes. None fit me in a flattering way that also didn’t require weight loss or undergarments that I couldn’t get into without a team and likely some sort of pulley system.

Now when I take a client shopping, typically one of the first 3 if not the first dress is the winner for her, but that did not happen for me.

But when I put this dress on from a store called Elephants Trunk in Mt. Kisco NY, I knew I found ‘the one’ for me.

Still, I knew I wanted to make some changes so as to make the dress my own and have the look and style I wanted for myself.

The Elephants Trunk allowed me to customize the dress and along with their very talented seamstress, here is what I requested:

Bye, bye, frumpy sleeves!

I didn’t want the sleeves to be the same fabric as the main part of the dress as to me that looked frumpy.

As per my request, I wanted them to be made out of the lacey and slightly sparkly fabric.

What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom

But that wasn’t enough for me! I wanted a flowing back and the seamstress and salespeople on the floor looked at me like I was nuts!

To be honest, when I was in weeks before, the owner thought my idea was great.

Below is the back before the requested flowing fabric was added.

What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom

Below is the dress with the fabric pinned onto the back and once they saw my idea actually on, they loved my idea.

If you know me, you know I love clothes that have movement.

What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom

And here I am with my son on the day of my daughter’s wedding, and let me tell you it was a GREAT day and night.

What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom

PS. The dress did come in other colors, but because this dress was made from two different fabrics the colors did not totally match and that is
the only reason why I ended up wearing black.

Take a look at the video below with a few of my tips to help you select a dress for the
special events in your life.

Watch to get ideas on What To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom so you’ll be comfortable, confident and certain nothing will pop!

Push Your Sleeves Up

How To Push Your Sleeves Up!

Push Your Sleeves Up

For all the women who have worked with me and/or attended my presentations, you know how much I say… “don’t forget to push your sleeves up.”

Why?

Because an outfit looks much, much better when you push your sleeves up.

Before I was known as the stylist who helps women stop stressing about dressing, I wanted to be known as the Push Your Sleeves Up Stylist…that’s how much I love the look of sleeves pushed up.

But sleeves don’t always cooperate, so check out this sleeve saving gadget.

It’s called CuffedUp, and it has me pumped up!

No more sleeves falling down, getting in your food or making short arms look even shorter.

AND you can use it on pants hem too!!!

Men will love CuffedUp too.

When your sleeves are pushed up, your outfit will look considerably more stylish and polished.

Plus it makes you look thinner and taller.

Don’t believe me? Just go in front of a mirror and push one sleeve up and you’ll
see exactly what I mean.

The video below shows how the CuffedUp works.

Use code crew10 for an extra 10% off.

 

If you think pushing your sleeves up is a great tip,
you’re going to love the ones you’ll get in
Dress Without Stress.

How many more years will you waste not knowing what to wear?

 

 

Wearing The Wrong Outfit

Wearing The Wrong Outfit Changed My Life

 Wearing The Wrong Outfit Changed My Life so…

Get ready for learning about my most embarrassing moment.

Have you ever wondered if I always knew what to wear?

The answer is NO!

When you listen to this interview by Sandy Weiner of The Woman Of Value podcast, you’ll hear one of my most humiliating life experiences, and it started with not knowing what to wear.

It took me over 20 years to share this embarrassing story.

So grab a cup of coffee, facial mask, or put on your makeup while you listen and learn.

 

Here’s the link to my virtual personal styling where for just $250.00 I show you how to finally stop wasting money on clothes you end up not wearing or even liking.

Yes, YOU can stop getting stressed and putting yourself down, because you’ll finally know how to dress your current body shape for the life you live on the budget you have.

How many more years will you waste?

How To Organize Handbags

How To Organize Handbags In Your Closet

 

 

As the temps get cooler, you’re going to need to start finding and wearing the clothes that will keep you warm and cozy. But just because the leaves are dropping doesn’t mean our clothes and bags need to be falling too.

Here’s where I’m going with this…

Recently I looked into my closet and said to myself, enough is enough!

My bags, not just the ones under my eyes, were floppy and dingy and the clothes on my shelves looked like the back of my elbows. Wrinkled and in rough shape.

I figured out that the solution was to inject fillers, but not the ones you get at a spa or doctor’s office.

Step one: Injecting myself with determination and energy to get the job done.

No more saying one day, when I have time, or have nothing else to do, because we all know how one day often turns into no day, no way, no how.

We need to decide that one day is today and that is just what I did in just a few hours to make my closet look young and fresh again.

You can too when you follow these easy to do tips.

Fall in Love with Organizing Your Closet

Inject Fillers Into Your Floppy Handbags

Step two: Dumped out all my handbags onto my bed, and yes I do have quite a few of them, so I can see which needed more plumping up.

Most of them are loosely structured and need stuffing to stop flopping around on my closet’s shelves.

The solution is to inject fillers into the bags by stuffing them with bubble wrap, paper, or even the t-shirts you’re no longer wearing.

Just like your hair, they need some body to look good.

Once filled and stuffed, the bags will stand up straight and keep their original shape.

Gee, I wish it was that easy for our shapes.

Fall in Love with Organizing Your Closet

Tip: I put them back by color, and used a clear magazine holder for the little pouches, extra straps, etc. Think of it as Spanx for holding in all your loose pieces.

FYI most of my handbags are from MZ Wallace. I’m quite a fan of their bags.

All of my leggings are by Lysse. I’m a devoted fan of their bottoms too.

Nope, I’m a BIG fan.

Fall in Love with Organizing Your Closet

Then I tackled the clothes and shawls/ponchos I have folded on my shelves, or you may have them in drawers.

I folded each one neatly, so that not only can I clearly see what each piece is, but also to make it easier to decide which one to wear or pack when traveling.

To me, they look so much prettier now too, and yes I’ll keep them this way.

Fall in Love with Organizing Your Closet

I do have lots of leggings and jeans which I actually wear, so I organized them by color and made one pile for those in a larger size because let’s face it…we all have those days, or weeks, or months…you get what I mean.

Fall in Love with Organizing Your Closet

P.S. Not sure you noticed, but nothing from above was about which clothes I had to keep or toss.

Why do you ask?

Well, that’s because I stopped having an unhealthy relationship with my clothes, many, many years ago. Knowing when and how to say bye-bye to the clothes that are doing you wrong is life-changing and you’ll have less mess in your closet too.

Get help knowing how to break up with some of your clothes when you go here to get my FREE End Your Closet Shame 5 Day Video Guide.

 

 

 

I originally wrote the above article for The Three Tomatoes, a wonderful on-line newsletter for women over 50.

 

Top 20 Questions Women Ask About What To Wear

Top 20 Questions Women Ask About What To Wear

If you ever, ever feel alone when you’re feeling stressed about what to wear, you might feel a whole lot better if you read the top 20 questions women have asked me about what to wear.

Warning: You’re soooo NOT alone in those thoughts of yours. 🙂

I thought I’d share the Top 20 Questions Women Ask Me About What To Wear and I’m wondering do you relate to any of these too?

1. Does this make my butt look fat?

2. How can I dress to look younger but not like I’m trying too hard?

3. Should I keep the clothes that no longer fits, just in case one day, they’ll fit again?

4. Should I keep the clothes that are old and out of style just in case they come back in style again?

5. Can you help me find clothes that fit since I’ve gained weight?

6. I’m tired of buying whatever fits me, and then hating them when it gets home. Can you help me?

7. How can I hide my belly, aka muffin top?

8. I’m short, so where can I find clothes that fit me?

9. Where can I find clothes that look good on me on a budget?

10. What can I wear to look thinner?

11. How can I look professional AND be comfortable?

12. Am I too old to wear this?

13. Where can I find clothes I really want to wear?

14. How do I dress age-appropriate?

15. How should I dress in my 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s?

16. What clothes should I wear for my body type?

17. How can I find clothes if I hate shopping?

18. Why should I buy clothes now if I want to lose weight?

19. Why do I keep buying the same boring things, over and over?

20. What should I wear to look in style and not frumpy?

PS. If any of the above ring true to you, please let me know in the comment box below and I’ll create a newsletter with tips and solutions to your most popular “what should I wear” questions.