Recently I was asked to be a guest on the wonderful Amy Schmid’s podcast Fearlessly Facing Fifty. She asked me to share styling tips on how to shop and dress for our ever-changing bodies and mindset.
So take a listen and please tell me which you liked the best or what tip you’d like me to give you in the near future.
Easy packing. Easy choosing what to wear.
“Yesterday and today I’m on the road meeting with clients and estate attorneys. Before packing I pulled up the photos of all the beautiful outfits you created and it made packing so easy! Everything coordinated and I felt great. Many thanks!”
PS. My next newsletter will be my annual My Favorite Things list where I share the products I love for myself and you.
When one of my clients has the joy of her son or daughter getting married, she calls me for ideas on what to wear as the mother of the Bride or Groom, and the first thing I tell them is not to wear black.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking…but Scarlett wore black.
Okay, I confess I did and that I’m somewhat ashamed, but please hear me out before you shake your finger at me or roll your eyes.
When you read to the end, you’ll find out the true reason I wore black.
I tried on at least 15 dresses in two different stores and in all sorts of colors and shapes. None fit me in a flattering way that also didn’t require weight loss or undergarments that I couldn’t get into without a team and likely some sort of pulley system.
Now when I take a client shopping, typically one of the first 3 if not the first dress is the winner for her, but that did not happen for me.
But when I put this dress on from a store called Elephants Trunk in Mt. Kisco NY, I knew I found ‘the one’ for me.
Still, I knew I wanted to make some changes so as to make the dress my own and have the look and style I wanted for myself.
The Elephants Trunk allowed me to customize the dress and along with their very talented seamstress, here is what I requested:
Bye, bye, frumpy sleeves!
I didn’t want the sleeves to be the same fabric as the main part of the dress as to me that looked frumpy.
As per my request, I wanted them to be made out of the lacey and slightly sparkly fabric.
But that wasn’t enough for me! I wanted a flowing back and the seamstress and salespeople on the floor looked at me like I was nuts!
To be honest, when I was in weeks before, the owner thought my idea was great.
Below is the back before the requested flowing fabric was added.
Below is the dress with the fabric pinned onto the back and once they saw my idea actually on, they loved my idea.
If you know me, you know I love clothes that have movement.
And here I am with my son on the day of my daughter’s wedding, and let me tell you it was a GREAT day and night.
PS. The dress did come in other colors, but because this dress was made from two different fabrics the colors did not totally match and that is
the only reason why I ended up wearing black.
Take a look at the video below with a few of my tips to help you select a dress for the
special events in your life.
Watch to get ideas onWhat To Wear As Mother Of The Bride Or Groom so you’ll be comfortable, confident and certain nothing will pop!
As the temps get cooler, you’re going to need to start finding and wearing the clothes that will keep you warm and cozy. But just because the leaves are dropping doesn’t mean our clothes and bags need to be falling too.
Here’s where I’m going with this…
Recently I looked into my closet and said to myself, enough is enough!
My bags, not just the ones under my eyes, were floppy and dingy and the clothes on my shelves looked like the back of my elbows. Wrinkled and in rough shape.
I figured out that the solution was to inject fillers, but not the ones you get at a spa or doctor’s office.
Step one: Injecting myself with determination and energy to get the job done.
No more saying one day, when I have time, or have nothing else to do, because we all know how one day often turns into no day, no way, no how.
We need to decide that one day is today and that is just what I did in just a few hours to make my closet look young and fresh again.
You can too when you follow these easy to do tips.
Inject Fillers Into Your Floppy Handbags
Step two: Dumped out all my handbags onto my bed, and yes I do have quite a few of them, so I can see which needed more plumping up.
Most of them are loosely structured and need stuffing to stop flopping around on my closet’s shelves.
The solution is to inject fillers into the bags by stuffing them with bubble wrap, paper, or even the t-shirts you’re no longer wearing.
Just like your hair, they need some body to look good.
Once filled and stuffed, the bags will stand up straight and keep their original shape.
Gee, I wish it was that easy for our shapes.
Tip: I put them back by color, and used a clear magazine holder for the little pouches, extra straps, etc. Think of it as Spanx for holding in all your loose pieces.
FYI most of my handbags are fromMZ Wallace. I’m quite a fan of their bags.
All of my leggings are by Lysse. I’m a devoted fan of their bottoms too.
Nope, I’m a BIG fan.
Then I tackled the clothes and shawls/ponchos I have folded on my shelves, or you may have them in drawers.
I folded each one neatly, so that not only can I clearly see what each piece is, but also to make it easier to decide which one to wear or pack when traveling.
To me, they look so much prettier now too, and yes I’ll keep them this way.
I do have lots of leggings and jeans which I actually wear, so I organized them by color and made one pile for those in a larger size because let’s face it…we all have those days, or weeks, or months…you get what I mean.
P.S. Not sure you noticed, but nothing from above was about which clothes I had to keep or toss.
Why do you ask?
Well, that’s because I stopped having an unhealthy relationship with my clothes, many, many years ago. Knowing when and how to say bye-bye to the clothes that are doing you wrong is life-changing and you’ll have less mess in your closet too.
Get help knowing how to break up with some of your clothes when you gohere to get my FREE End Your Closet Shame 5 Day Video Guide.
I originally wrote the above article for The Three Tomatoes, a wonderful on-line newsletter for women over 50.